Family

it’s so interesting to tell about  family, Ok, I think my family is not high-educated family cause we are the merchant family, but my father always teach his children to be a person who like to read news paper and update news everyday, he teach us to be a critical person, and giving first priority to educational things. In my family there were six persons, but it was 3 years ago, the number decreased since my father passed away on may 2008. we really became underpressured because it done suddenly. It happened when I held Nasional test in junior high school. A year after that, my mom built a simple home. She tried to be a parsimony person(before that she was a really spender person) because now she has to be a single parent who manage all of mom and dad’s duties. I know it’s so difficult thing but she never beef about what happen in her life. She tried as long as she can and she never say tired for her working and her obligation as a single parent. I continued my school to senior high school in SMAN 1 Padang panjang and lived in dormitory so that  I’m not too close with my family , I seldom share with my mom and I just went home once per month. Moreover my eldest brother studies college in Padang and my second brother works in Padang. Just my mom and my sister lives in the house.
When we were together, we just spent the time in the house and I usually make my cooking experiences because it’s one of my hobbies. I could see my mom’s sadness when she saw her children went away fom the house to get knowledge but she always show “no problem face” to us. So that she always support my activities that has education value for me. The type of my family is “keepimage” family, we are not too openness each other, and we never show the affection each other but I know we love each other.  We always try to make this family become a peace family eventhough sometimes I felt jealous with my friend’s. But I believe that The God has managed all of my life with my family. We just be able to try and pry..

 I’ll tell  one per one and I begin from my father. My father’s name is E’em Christiar,he was a merchant, his principle is “living for the death” whatever we do in this world, it has to be balanced for our beyond(final home). My father is the true leader for me, because he could lead and controlled his member and the most important he could lead his soul. He was so religious, smart, wise and so autonomous. Whatever he did, he always did it seriously and manage everything neatly. I can learn much from his soul, his responsibility, his autonomous and his well-regulated.He often give me advice which can change the way of my thinking, such as: “there are only three keys for success,they are: working seriously,be confident and praying to the God.” I often make his advice to be my spirit when I’m in down condition.  But his character which I can’t imitate is his parsimony, it’s so different with me that I’m a spender person and so difficult to manage the financial. I’ve ever got angry with him because of his thrifty. When he dead, I came underpressured because I need him very much in my teenage period to be the good and high-educated character. He was the person whom I always ask something new, he had the advance thinking, he was my inspiration and my sharing friend, I admire and love him so much. But now, I just be able to reply his attention with my pray to the God for his final rest.I hope he could rest in peace.

My mom, her name is Yalmiwitnetti usually called Wit. She was a housewife when my father still alive. Now, she places my father’s position to be a merchant in the market. She sell school uniform and moeslem wear. I know my mom not more than I know my father. My mom never show her attention and her care in front of her children but I know she cares about us very much. She was a “keepimage” person and so coolly.Because of that character, I also become a keepimage and coolly person among of my friends. two characters that I admire from her, it’s about her belief to not marry again after my father passed away. Her reason is to be focus to children. She always support me to do what I think that it is good for me but it has to be related with education value.  She never tell us about her problem and she tries to solve the problem by herself. She was a spender person, so I am. It’s so different with my dad. Her education was not too high but I always make it a motivation to get the higher education. I seldom share my story with my mom because I live in the dormitory. So I’m not too close with her as I’m close with my dad. As I see my mom’s character is not too strong. But I love her very much.

My eldest brother, his name is Zico Fernando. He is 22nd old. Now he was in eightth semester in University of Andalas. He was also a coolly person. He only once shows his affection in front of me when he gave me a birthday present. I think he is not too responsible person to manage something, he can’t handle and manage his ownself and his member whereas he is a leader in my family now. His emotion is not stable and so sensitive. Sometimes I advice him more than he should do it to me. But when he gave advice to me, it awakes my awareness as a woman. He teaches me about the man, he bans me to date because in this epoch the condition of teenager is so bad. He teaches me to be a good and simple woman. I think he is a influental person in my life. He said to me, “to be a goodgirl, you have to beautiffied your heart before beautifying the body and face physically.”I admit that very difficult to find the woman whose beauty-heart. He also tell the bad experience and the bad impact from unlimitted social association. Eventhough he seldom give it,  I’m so lucky to ever get that meanful advice. And he is also a protective person esspecially to his mom and young sisters.

My second brother, His name is Gian Cascarino Christiar. He is 19th old. Now he works in the internet cafe in Padang. He is so smart on computer system but not in science. Talking about his characters,until now, I don’t and never understand about his way of thinking . He never care about family, he just obidient and tell his problem with my mom, when in the house, he just play in his ownroom in front of computer. I seldom communicate with him, and I feel he is not a good brother for me. He never ask about my activities and whatever about me.  He likes smoking and drinking coffee.He is the most difficulty child to be adviced. I don’t know the principle of his life. May be it caused by his friends.  But one thing that I can learn from him is about his autonomous to survive. He never require money to the mom since he passed senior high school and worked.He said to mom that he wants to study college with his ownmoney.

My young sister, her name is Annisa Fadhilla Christiar usually called Lala. She is 9th old it means we have 8 years different. She is in third grade in elementary school now. She is not too smart. But she is a cheerful person. I believe that Lala is the entrusted-good from the God to accompany my mom because of the death of my father. She was created to be a cheerful person to entertain us. She has a powerful psychological that she never cry when people ask about her dad, she always answer that her father has lived in the heaven, she knows that the God loves him. But since my dad passed away, she became an attached girl to my mom. Whatever she wants, it has to be acceded. But I always try to advice her to be a good girl as long as I can.